Do you remember being in elementary school and chanting this little ditty when another kid launched a snotty comment at you or one of your friends? “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.”
In the moment, it felt like the proper response, and while we pretended that their words didn’t hurt, they did, we just never admitted it out loud. So, if this approach didn’t work then, what makes us believe that because we’re now sitting at a more wiser and more mature 40 & 50+, it's okay to launch snotty comments at ourselves at speeds that would leave a welt or seriously injure us if they were actual stones?
Why do we still believe that “words will never hurt me?” Truth be told, words do hurt. Sometimes, even more than stones.
So why do words hurt? For starters, words consist of vibration and sound. It is these vibrations that create the very reality that surrounds us. Secondly, words create in our mind first and then in our reality. If our words and thoughts are the very tools with which we create our reality, then surely, they are our most powerful tool yet? Surely, we should only pick the very best words in order to create our very best reality. But do we?
Some word choices, thoughts or expressions are so deep-seated that they’re going to take time to change. In these moments, heed Maya Angelou’s poetic words of truth “When you know better, you do better.” In short, keep trying and if you don't get it right the first time, try another approach, but always build upon what you are learning.
Here’s 3 key tips to keep in mind as you “clean out” your word closet.
So, what are some words you should aim to nix from your vocabulary? Here’s my top 5 word picks to begin.
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